The
female body can achieve a climax from stimulation of the
G-spot, a small area behind the female pubic bone
surrounding the urethra and also from the klitoris. It is
possible that some women have more extensive klitoral
tissues and nerves than others, and so that some women
can achieve climax only by direct stimulation of the
external part of the klitoris. Inability to reach a
climax or anorgasmia, is very common, and mostly
psychological. As a general guide, most female G-spots
can be found at the roof of the vagina (that's the side
closest to her stomach.). It's about the size and shape
of a coin and can be found about 10cm inwards. There are
many erogenous zones that can be stimulated to create
extra pleasure. Apart from being sexy and attractive, the
female neck is perhaps one of the most sensitive areas of
the body. Softly touching, licking, kissing this area
from the shoulder to below the ear, while at the same
time massaging it with the tongue can send tingles up and
down the spine. Some girls get the tickles when you start
sucking on the ear lobes, some like it, but others simply
adore it. One can even whisper erotic phrases into the
ear at the same time. The female nipples become hard and
erect when stimulated with your tongue. The belly button
is another area you should stimulate before full
intercourse. Kissing this area with your lips and tongue
will vibrate through her reproductive area.
Experimentation is the key to find out what works
best.
Recommended
Reading
I love
Female O: By Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller. There are
few people who wouldn't get something out of reading this
marvelous new book. Educators Dorian Solot and Marshall
Miller manage to cover a wide range of sexual subject
matter, from the basics of first-time to esoteric Tantric
practice, all focusing on female climax, without once
making you feel bad if you aren't having a climax or if
your climax aren't what you want them to be. The book is
a blend of practical hands on tips, interesting trivia,
and helpful ideas for improving communication.
The
Elusive O: A Woman's Guide to Why She Can't and How She
Can O. By Vivienne Cass. A wonderfully supportive book
that doesn't tip around the problems women have reaching
climax, and offers direct advice, homework exercises, and
guidance for women who aren't having climax, or aren't
having them as regularly as they'd like. It's also filled
with some of the best illustrations of female anatomy
I've ever seen. Written by an Australian therapist,
reading The Elusive O sometimes feels like you're sitting
down in session with Cass who offers passionate
encouragement to go out and explore on your own.
The
Science of O: By Barry Komisaruk, Carlos Beyer-Flores,
and Beverly Whipple. This excellent book offers an up to
date overview of biological and physiological research
about o´s. While many of the chapters are not
written with laypeople in mind, for anyone curious about
sexual science, a little patience, and a good dictionary,
the results are well worth it. This book is not a how-to
on climax, but it is a welcome and much needed addition
to the relatively scant body of scientific research on
climax.
How To
Have Them, Give Them, And Keep Them Coming. by Lou Paget.
Educator and best selling author Lou Paget sets out to
clear-up some of the mystery of climax and offers
practical exercises and advice for couples and
individuals looking for ways to explore sex together and
develop greater climax. Paget's books are so popular
because they are enjoyable and easy to read, offering
supportive advice, never preaching, and focusing on the
real goal, which is the experience of pleasure and not
competition.
Female
O and the G Spot: Not Your Mother's Climax Book. By
Deborah Sundahl. This book is not for those starting out
to discover climax, and might be considered in the
"advance climax" curriculum. But for those who are
curious about the g spot and female ejaculation, Sundahl
offers one of the most complete, informed and detailed
books on the subjects. This one of a kind educational
handbook covers history, research, anatomy, workshops,
exercises, and plenty of straightforward guidance on
exploring g spot stimulation and female
pleasure.
Multi O
Man. By Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams. A simple and
straightforward guide to learning about male multiple
climax. Mantak Chia is a master of Taoist and has spent a
great deal of time teaching in the West. The result are
teachings that offer some of the spirituality, but in a
North American package. This book offers easy to follow
exercises both for men alone and with partners, and
encourages men to expand their potential without
requiring them to adhere to a specific set of spiritual
beliefs.
Multi O
Woman. By Mantak Chia & Rachel Carlton Abrams.
Following the successful model of the Multi O Male, this
title offers the same straightforward information,
including quizzes and homework exercises to help women
explore their pleasure potential, with a goal to
experiencing multiple climax. As with Chia's earlier
books, there is a spiritual underpinning here, but it
isn't pushed on the reader.
O for
Two. By Betty Dodson. This book does for partner pleasure
S for One did for self-touching It cuts through social
convention offering concrete advice on how to have more
climax during the act with your partner. Dodson is a
champion of the individual and this book speaks to
couples while focusing on personal pleasure. With over
thirty years of teaching women to climax, Dodson may be
one of the only people deserving of the title O guru.
Becoming
Pleasure. By Julia R. Heiman, Leslie LoPiccolo, and
Joseph LoPiccolo. A straightforward guide written by
therapists for women who don't experience (or don't
regularly experience) climax. Some may find this book too
clinical, but for anyone who likes step by step
instructions, exercises, and to the point information,
Becoming Pleasure is a great resource. The Becoming
Pleasure video which is a visual companion to the book,
is available separately.
S for
One: By Betty Dodson. An essential read, S for One is
Dodson's groundbreaking work on climax. Both personal and
political in its call for all of us to make better love
to ourselves, it has none of the smarmy self-help lingo,
but is inspiring and practical. Betty Dodson is a
revolutionary teacher, and everyone should read at least
one of her books in their lifetime. 208 pages.
1996.
The
Function of the Climax: Definitely not a how-to book, The
Function of the Climax is only for those who want to
explore the scientific and philosophical underpinnings of
the climax. Reich, who was a psychoanalyst and was cast
out from Sigmund Freud's inner circle, devoted most of
his life to exploring the climax and the relationship
between energy, and human experience. Not all of his
theories make sense, but his thinking on climax has
influenced more than one generation of writers,
researchers, and lovers. If you're going to read one
academic work on climax, this is the one to
read.
